I was with two friends on Saturday night for craft night. While I was complaining about this & that, my SAHM let loose with her complaints. She's living her dream of being a SAHM, and it really sounds miserable. She said getting married and having a family was just acquiring a whole new set of crosses. She also said she would not know how she would support her children if her husband kicked the bucket. She does not want to return to her former profession. I heard about her scary childbirth injuries too. Yikes. Actually, I got kind of cheered up. I thought she was living the dream, but as it turns out her uterus is practically falling out. And then the whole thing ended with her complaints about how NFP is just one big miserable hassle and doesn't allow many opportunities for sex (well, she still has more sex than I do!).
Well, you may say help the mom out. I can't because I'm not allowed. My other friend and I have offered several times over the past eight years to babysit, so she and her hubs could enjoy a leisurely dinner together or maybe she wants to ran errands alone or go to Starbucks and treat herself to a latte and read. But she doesn't believe in babysitters. Only the grandparents are allowed to babysit, and all the grandparents live in far away states. So she is in a self-induced stress filled situation.
I hold a valid teaching certificate, so I am legally qualified to supervise large groups of youngsters, keeping them safe while, at the same time, educating them. Also, I've passed many criminal background checks for various jobs (because I am not a crook). Our other friend is a Registered Nurse. So with the two of us taking care of her two children, they will be safe and smarter.
I wonder if this no babysitter rule has to do with her practice of attachment parenting.
Her husband would like us to babysit, but she won't allow it.