Are You Still a Virgin?

Asking someone whether or not they are still a virgin is a very personal question. And most of the time, it's none of our business. I'm talking about living in the current Non-Traditional Catholic Land, or in Non-Catholic Land.

So, how do we Catholics know if Mary, our Blessed Mother, remained a virgin? I want to know who had the nerve to ask Mary if she remained a virgin throughout her life with Joseph. We know by our Catholic tradition and by reading the Bible and through Church teaching that Mary was a virgin when Jesus was conceived (by the Holy Spirit). But how do we know she REMAINED a virgin?? Maybe I missed that part in Bible study. And why is it any of our business?

What if Mary and  Joseph had sex some time after Jesus was born? Let's say they did. Whom would have Mary told? I don't think she would have told Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, Peter, Paul, Andrew, Simon, etc. Is that something you would tell your son's friends? Who said what to whom? Was Joseph complaining to one of his buddies that marital life was missing marital relations? Maybe he was really much to old and didn't have the energy and told someone.

Maybe Joseph was too freaked out that Mary was called by God, and he better not go near her.

If somehow it was revealed that Mary did not remain a virgin, would that be such a bad thing? She was a married woman after all, wasn't she?

Why is it so important to us that Mary remained a virgin?

I'm just asking.