I Wanted to Leave a Comment on Simcha's Blog

My post today is about this:

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/simchafisher/2014/05/21/a-beautiful-courageous-idea-naming-your-victims/

I wanted to write a comment on Simcha's Fisher blog post, but due to goofy Disquis or whatever that stupid program is called, I couldn't.

I think the project is just another way for men who have used porn to make themselves feel better.  It's like the hot or not site.

Men with this particular sin, how about writing a thoughtful essay on how you came to the conclusion that viewing pornography is objectifying???


 Every cell in my female body says this is a misguided project and wrong. In fact, it seems icky to me. And Darren Cools, is your goal to make a woman icky and uncomfortable? 'Cause that's what you're doing to me. 

Darren Cools wrote this comment in reply to another woman's opposing opinion: 
"It's important to remember that the women in question have already 
publicized their names, faces and much more (or someone else has, 
despite them) across the internet." 

This is what I say: Just because a person has disgraced him or herself or was exploited, doesn't mean you get to perpetuate the bad behavior. 



Ladies, what is your take???

Okay for Now

Thank you for those who prayed for me. I can stay in my apartment until June 30th. I can stay longer if I quickly find a really good job. Tomorrow I have an interview for a real job. I am kind of looking for a roommate.

On Sunday morning I was so overwhelmed. I went to the ladies' room before Mass and an acquaintance who was washing her hands asked how I was, and I broke down sobbing. She was Christ to me because she patiently listened, gave me hugs, and said comforting words. I didn't go into details just that life's challenges are getting the better of me. Who knows what she understood through my sobs. I was just so grateful.

Did Anyone Miss Me? - Financial Crisis - Need Prayers

I deleted my blog, and just undeleted it. I kind of missed it.  Actually, I'm back because I need prayers. I'm unemployed (again) and am behind on my rent. Today I rec'd the dreaded 5-day notice to pay $2,800.00+ in back rent or else.

My dad has already lectured me.* He told me to get a job! Well, duh! That's what I've been looking for.

My dad lives in a one-bedroom senior apartment, so I suppose there's his couch for a while.

I'm calling the township for emergency assistance. I'll call Catholic Charities & the Salvation Army.

I'm going to sell some jewelry and see what I come up with.

I'll have to call my relatives, and just listen to their lectures and cry. Has anyone ever had to do that to get out of a bind? Have you ever lent relatives money? I don't even know when I could pay relatives back.

Help, help, help

If nothing else, could you please pray????????????????

I've been saying a 30-day novena to St. Joseph. The last time (several years ago) I was in dire straights, I prayed that novena and rec'd a surprising solution. I'm hoping God pulls me through once again.

In the meantime, I'm applying for jobs like crazy. Yes, I rec'd unemployment, but it isn't all that much. It never is.

I don't have siblings.

Maybe if I lost everything (stuff, money), I can start over to a better new life.  I can only hope.


*He wasn't exactly an example of financial stability or responsibility either for the 40+ years of his marriage. I know things and my mother told me things (before she died), so he has no room to lecture.

Two Reasons for Joy!

I'm taking the blogger's easy way out and linking to other people's posts because they deserve to be read.

It is  truly awesome that this boy wants to be a priest when he grows up! 

http://choosingtobethelight.blogspot.com/2014/04/my-son-wants-to-be-priest-isnt-that.html

I heard a priest say that there is much joy to be found in serving others. That priest finds joy in his vocation. So why am I sitting here in front of my computer so much?

and

It's still Easter, so let's keep celebrating!

http://www.piercedhands.com/50-ways-celebrate-easter/

Maybe I will send out Easter cards that I meant to send, but didn't.


Grab what joy you can in this life. I just gave you two reasons to life your head out of the ordinary grind and worries (I have plenty) and look up and rejoice that

He is Risen!!!!

Yippee!

Two Books I Read in April

1) Swimming with Scapulars. True Confessions of a Young Catholic by Matthew Lickona.

This is a calm and honest account of the spiritual development and struggles of the author. And by the picture inside the book jacket, a hot looking author. Oh wait, do not judge a book by the hotness of the author.

He attended Thomas Aquinas College in California. I was looking at the college's website and noted that there are separate resident halls for male and female. Not only that, a guy can't be hanging out in a girl's dorm and vice versa (unless it's moving day). I think I would have liked being in an environment where there wasn't all that rampant sex under my nose and feeling odd that I wasn't partaking in such. It seems like a safe and wholesome environment at least according to the website.

I recommend this book if you are a Catholic adult or Catholic young adult and need encouragement. It's nice to know you aren't walking alone on the conservative lifestyle road. Read this book if you're curious what it's like to be Catholic these days. This is one man's experience.

2) Prude. Lessons I Learned when my Fiance Filmed Porn by Emily Southwood.

Well, this author bares all in her writing. Yowza. I would be so embarrassed to write about sexual escapades. She wanted to explain to readers that she wasn't a prude. Nope, not a prude. Not even modest. Sure, this book is honest and frank, but in a different way. I wonder if her parents read this book, but maybe the parents are um . . . loose-minded.

Anyway, this "sexually liberated" author was bothered by the fact that she was bothered by the fact her fiance was taping porn stars doing various sexual activities, which is described in the book. Then the sad part was the author became very insecure about her own body. Anyway, she finally admitted to her fiance that she was bothered by his job, and he quit his job.

Well, my reading material is varied.

March Mix-Up and God's Not Dead

Hi, I resisted the urge to title post this March M ------ because I never went to the big dance.

Anyway, here it goes:

1) Russian Soldiers and Putin, get back into your own country. Russia is big enough! Stop invading other countries and that includes Crimea! Russia, I don't trust you. I never have, and never will. I feel for the people in the Ukraine.

2) I can't even imagine what it's like to lose your beloved on that Malaysian jet. I hope a real person finds the real jet very soon. In the meantime, people, stop throwing trash in the ocean.

3) Went to a memorial service at a Unitarian church. A lady minister said some nice words. I forgot what if anything was said about the afterlife or Heaven as we know it.  Every time I looked at the lady minister I thought of LarryD who stopped blogging.

4) Seraphic Singles blogger AND Meg from the Pierced Hands blog had things to say about leggings.  I think leggings with some skirts especially on little girls are cute and have a purpose. Leggings on grown women without skirts - um - either you're showing up your super skinny body or um grossing some people out. But if it's cold enough for leggings, then why aren't Leggings Wearers wearing socks?

5) Currently unemployed. This time I'm skipping the worry and going straight to God. I feel like praying the rosary a lot. Suddenly it doesn't seem like a chore. Hmm. Go order a beautiful rosary from Becky's Etsy shop Roses for Mary by clicking here:
https://www.etsy.com/shop/BeckyArganbright. Hoping God changes my life in a big wonderful fantastic way like He did for Stacy Trascanos with wonderful husband, cute children and big wonderful home with cool job offers that don't require much of a commute. Her family update post is about the only I understood on the whole blog. Wait, didn't she once write on an old blog how she didn't like to see lesbian couples holding hands in the park or something like that? I understood that post.

6) I once socialized with a cool lesbian couple. Fun, witty, very kind. No, they didn't hold hands. People are people.

7) Somehow I ended belonging to a book discussion group at a Catholic Worship Center. The deacon said it's not a church, but a worship center to be inclusive. A neighboring synagogue uses the space for its High Holy Day services. We're reading a book about Jesus being Jewish written by Amy-Jill Levine, and there are practicing Jewish people in our group. The deacon likes to show off his knowledge of Hebrew.

8) Sometimes I worry that I'll never get to hold a baby again. When I see more gray hairs, I am repulsed. Then I make a phone call to the salon.

9) Last weekend made the bad decision to see the movie About Last Night. Stupid me. I wasn't all that thrilled with that movie back in the 1980s, and not thrilled with the remake. It's based on the play Sexual Perversity in Chicago by David Mamet. I never saw the play, but maybe he would title it Hooking Up in Chicago if he wrote it today. Or maybe not.

10) Today made the much better decision to meet different friends at the movies. We saw God's Not Dead. http://godsnotdeadthemovie.com. Some of it was very simplistic and exaggerated, but it's a movie and needed to make a point. Some of it was meaty, I thought. Anyway, you've seen that kind of ending before, but who cares? It was a Feel Good movie about STANDING UP FOR CHRISTIANITY, and staying true to your beliefs. If you have a precocious jr. high school child, I think he/she would get it. Otherwise, appropriate for teen-agers and above. And guess what??? There is NOTHING embarrassing or shameful about it.

I thought I was going to see Heaven's For Real or something like that. But the teen-age boy in the box office said I meant God's Not Dead. I never heard of that movie! Also, Son of God was playing at the theatre, so I was rather confused about what God movie I was suppose to see. But the teen-age boy was right (hire a teen-ager while they still know everything).

11) I'm not sure I like this trend of putting nail polish on girls. What do you think? It just seems like putting nail polish on girls is part of the whole sexualizing girls while they are still girls. Okay, call me old fashioned. On the other hand (or foot), it's just nail polish. But why do girls feel like they have to embellish their bodies??? I know why I feel that way. But shouldn't girls just live in a world where they are pretty just the way they are? Why don't they feel that way? What am I missing?

12) I have lots of old fashion ideas, but also feel like spray painting my hair pink. Go figure.

I Wrote Seven Quick Takes Without Meaning To - It Just Happened that Way

1) Little nativity set is still in the break room at work. Some people have brought in some nice plants to place on either side of it. It's a nice little display.

2) Co-worker was very appreciative of his care package. I had a fantastic Valentine's Day at work. I walked in, and there was a bacon donut on my desk. THE BEST. I had a very happy mouth. People really out did themselves for the office potluck.

3) I really like being a Communion Minister. Everyone looks so beautiful when they receive. It doesn't matter the age, the sex, the whatever, everyone looks like a beloved child of God when they're in front of me receiving.

4) I remember the days when people would not receive from an extraordinary minister of communion. You know what, I cannot deconsecrate the Host or the blood of Christ. I can't make it unholy.

5) The group of elderly from the assisted living facility haven't been attending Mass. I'm guessing it's because of the bad weather. With the ice and snow and extreme cold, some people may not make it back to the rest home. Maybe they'll come back in the spring. They aren't the sturdiest bunch, and a strong wind could do them in.

6) It stresses me out when my father insists on going out in bad weather. I wish he would wear a helmet just in case he slips on the ice. He's had a few close calls. His house is very messy, and it looks like a frat house. He does have someone who comes in and cleans, but I was scrubbing things in the kitchen. If my mom or my grandmother were around, they would get on his case for sure. He says men don't see the dirt.

7) Anybody out there doing elder care for their parents?????